How does a pastor cultivate humility in his life?
I was asked recently by a young man desiring pastoral ministry how a pastor battles his pride and embraces humility? Without much thought, I fired these 3 things out and upon further reflection would...
View ArticleWhy should pastors embrace the pleasant…unpleasant moments in our ministries?
I recently came home late one night having spent a few hours counseling a couple in our church whose husband had fallen into pornography. My wife was waiting patiently for me knowing what I was doing....
View ArticleWhich area of sin does the enemy target the most in pastors?
We have established in previous posts the primary target that pastors are to the enemy. However, out of all the areas of sin pastors can be tempted in by the enemy, which one does the enemy focus on...
View ArticleWhy should local churches practice church discipline?
I have no intention to answer this question with a unique argument for this practice. There are many good older resources, as well as some helpful modern ones that have covered this topic thoroughly...
View ArticleWhat can a depressed person do daily while fighting for joy?
Depression is a dark, complex cloud. It is a burden that takes time to work through and is usually a snare that those who struggle with it, struggle their entire lives. While the counseling is being...
View ArticleHow does a pastor’s wife battle loneliness?
As I am in the midst of reading and editing my wife’s contribution to our upcoming book, so I thought I would throw a few nuggets of excellent wisdom and insight from her as I read them. Here are some...
View ArticleHow does a pastor shepherd widows and widowers who desire cohabitation?
This is a question I am getting more and more because of the increase of pastors facing this situation in their churches. This is especially common among the elderly who meet someone, desire to get...
View ArticleHow can a pastor’s sinful desire to feel needed manifest itself in his...
One of the best ways to discourage a pastor is to make him feel he is unneeded. In fact, a pastor’s desire to feel needed shows itself in a variety of ways. The most obvious way the desire for...
View ArticleHow do you minister to a child whose father has abandoned the family?
Last week, I was summoned by a 6-year-old little girl in my church. I have a good relationship with her and she wanted to talk to the pastor, so I agreed. Her mom brought her by our house one evening...
View ArticleHow does a girl understand a guy’s struggle with pornography?
For those unfamiliar with my older brother Scott, it is time to be introduced. Scott is my older and only brother. He is a lawyer. He practiced law in Washington DC while serving as the chairman of...
View ArticleWhat is the most helpful kind of wife for a pastor?
Regardless the temperament of a pastor and the type of church he serves, most of us would agree that every church will have a wide spectrum of affection for their pastor. Every church to some degree...
View ArticleHow do you counsel a husband who has revealed a struggle with pornography to...
Every pastor already faces this. Unfortunately, I fear the problem will only become more common in the future; that is marriage counseling as a result of a husband’s struggle with pornogrpahy. The...
View ArticleHow do you counsel a wife who has been harmed by her husband’s struggle with...
Last week, I referred to 6 ways to counsel a husband who has harmed his wife with his pornography struggle. What about the wife? Although many are harmed by a husband’s struggle with pornography, no...
View ArticleHow does a pastor experience encouragement as he shepherds his people through...
Several years ago now, I came home late one night having spent a few hours counseling a couple in our church whose husband had fallen into pornography. My wife was waiting patiently for me knowing...
View ArticleHow can a pastor guard his heart from neglecting his family?
There is so much at work when a pastor neglects his family. There are pressures and demands of ministry. There are tensions in his relationship with his wife and children. There are ambitions the...
View ArticleHow does a pastor deal with a leader who commits arson, adultery, and...
I would never have believed this story, but when a pastor friend of mine sat across the table from me and told me all about it, I couldn’t escape it. He had sought my counsel about how to care for a...
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Interview with Rachael Denhollander about pastors protecting children and...
This week the Southern Baptist Convention was shook to its core with the 3 articles researched and released by the Houston Chronical revealing the epidemic of sexual abuse in SBC churches (700 victims)...
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